Reframing Self-Denial

One of the many things I struggle with is the practice of self-denial, especially when going through life's many challenges.  

For example, some days when things aren't going particularly well,  I just want to eat Taco Bell (like an entire party pack of tacos) and binge watch something on television.  Or I might sleep late instead of rising at my usual time, so I don't pray and journal like I should. 

It can even mean putting off chores that I need to complete because I feel overwhelmed by having to do them, and would rather do something more "fun" or "engaging" like shopping or find a concert to attend. 

None of these things in and of themselves are terrible (maybe the party pack of tacos), but when I use them to avoid practicing self-denial, they can become the kinds of escapes that I need to avoid if I'm going to be my best self. 

I think we all could use a reframing of the whole concept of self-denial, though. A different mindset might give us the focus to surrender our wills and deny the desires that keep us numb and disengaged from the world. 

Traditionally marked by reflection, repentance, and spiritual renewal, Lent is the perfect time to renew our call upon our lives as Jesus followers and deepen our understanding of self-denial. 

Often seen as a sacrifice or loss, our relationship with Christ can profoundly transform this concept. 

Dietrich Bonhoeffer offers illuminating insight into this idea: 

“Self-denial means knowing only Christ, and no longer oneself. It means seeing only Christ, who goes ahead of us, and no longer the path that is too difficult for us… . Self-denial is saying only: He goes ahead of us; hold fast to him.” 

This quote invites us to shift our focus from our struggles and burdens to the assurance of following Jesus. Self-denial, in this sense, is not about strict obligations or the denial of pleasures; it is about moving beyond our personal limitations to embrace the path laid out by Christ.

In Matthew 16:24, we hear Jesus’ call: “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” 

This scripture beautifully complements Bonhoeffer’s insights. When we deny ourselves, we create room for Christ to lead us. We begin to recognize that our challenges are not obstacles to be feared but opportunities to trust in His guidance. 

By letting go of our desires and self-centeredness, we can focus solely on Him, who precedes us on our faith journey.

This Lent, let us embrace self-denial not merely as a task or obligation, but as a liberating practice of focusing wholly on Christ. Instead of viewing it as a burden, understand it as an essential step toward transformation. 

By setting aside distractions—be it a comforting routine, an unhealthy habit, or a fixation on our worries—we open our hearts to follow His example of love and service.

As you navigate this Lenten season, consider how you might practice self-denial that reflects your desire to follow Jesus wholeheartedly. Take time to pray, serve others, or engage in acts of compassion, with the understanding that He goes ahead of you, guiding your steps along the way.

May this season inspire a journey of deepening faith and trust in Christ. Embrace self-denial as a joyous commitment to hold fast to Him, leading you to a life filled with purpose, love, and abundant grace.

And may the grace and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with us all now and forever. Amen.