When Being Right Isn't Right Enough
I like to be right about things.
In fact, I take no small amount of pleasure in moments where I have been debating something with one of my family members (especially one of my kids) when they have to finally admit that I was right about what I was saying.
While I am typically magnanimous in my victory, I may have also been known to perform a celebratory dance, or punctuate the moment with words like, "Boom! Roasted!" or "That's right, I'm right!"
Being right is so very, very satisfying.
Until it isn't.
Because sometimes our desire to be right feels incredibly wrong for others. Sometimes our desire to be right causes us to wound the ones we love, to do harm to our relationships, and even to blind us to the fact that what we perceive as right is actually... not right.
And there are times when the choices we have before us don't feel right at all. In fact, we might even know in our heart of hearts that no matter what we choose, we might actually be wrong.
Madeline L'Engle wrote about this in a way that makes so such sense to me:
Far too often in this confused world we are faced with choices, all of which are wrong, and the only thing we can do, in fear and trembling, is to choose the least wrong, without pretending to ourselves that it is right.